"It keeps no record of wrongs"
The ninth on the list is something perhaps we have all been guilty of.
Any relationship will come to a point where a debate becomes heated. As we learned in yesterday's discussion, everyone has a boil over point.
After tempers cool down and you've had time to make up we all try our best to forgive and forget. We may even pride ourselves on our ability to let things go. If you are one that is capable of doing that, good for you. Keep up the good work.
For most the problem is we only think we're good at that. Reality is we let it go until the next argument. Keeping no record of wrongs would mean therefore that when the discussion becomes heated we don't roll out the list of past faults and fire them at our mate like missiles. That is clearly a sign we are keeping a record of wrongs, albeit a mental record.
No one likes to have their past mistakes hurled at them. It is hurtful, embarrassing and damaging to the long term well being and longevity of our relationship. Be the person who when they say "I accept your apology "truly does! Learn to move on from the past. There is nothing back there that can be altered, especially when it comes to the errors of our mate, so leave it in the past.
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