In today's world we seem to constantly find ourselves colliding with abrasive people and personalities. It is not unusual for people to let their tempers get the best of them. And that's just during our morning commute! Then we have the whole day to deal with similar attitudes. If we are not careful the bad moods of people we deal with at work will spill over into our home life. We might become "easily angered" with our mate.
The Apostle Paul cautioned us that love, true love, does not become easily angered.
What does that really mean? Are we to pretend that as humans we will never become agitated or angry? Hardly! However when we really love our mate we will not be quick to rage. We will not jump to conclusions on matters before we have heard what they have to say. Love will even allow us to offer second chances because we will not be hasty to render judgment against our mate. Remembering that often we ourselves have been guilty of wronging our mate and sincerely desired their forgiveness.
Even more than being forgiving love will prevent us from having a vindictive spirit!
If you struggle with anger issues then you will need to work extra hard to control your temper and your tongue.
Think about this. The next time you feel yourself becoming agitated to the point of full blown anger step back and pause. In that moment of pause ask yourself three things before you open your mouth to speak:
1- Does it need to be said?
2- Does it need to be said by me?
3- Does it need to be said right now?
If you cannot honestly answer yes to ALL THREE questions, then just don't say it.
Once it is said, your mate can never unhear it or unfeel it.
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